Here we are again, another semester at LIU-Post. In the fall I wrote a column entitled, “Why Do We Do It?” This week’s column is basically an addition to that piece. So way back when, I proposed that very question and, of course, there are a multitude of answers. The most common answer for young women is that we want to fix every messed up guy there is walking this planet.
As far as society is concerned, women are the overly emotional ones with all sorts of issues. Is that really an accurate statement though? I don’t think so. I’m talking about guys in a specific age range, 20-23. They have more problems then I know what to do with and us ladies all fall for it. We sit patiently and listen to their nonsense and have this insane notion that we can fix them, that we are the answer to all their problems.
Being the “emotional” ones, we make the decision to be all in relatively early; all it takes is a few good dates and were in. Let’s take one specific type of guy for example; the guy who loves everything about having a girlfriend, the going out to dinner or just lounging around the house watching movies all day, however the term girlfriend shakes him to his core. No one knows exactly why but the idea of being in a serious relationship petrifies him.
So you decide after a few dates that you’re completely ready to take on this challenge. All goes well at first, but you know you’re essentially dealing with the equivalent of a deer in the wild, so no sudden movements. You think you’re making some strides in the right direction. A month or two later it’s all over; there’s no fight or anything, it just fizzles out. The question you ask yourself is, “Where did I go wrong?”
I’ve come to the conclusion that the only thing you did wrong was wasting your time on some jerk that didn’t deserve a minute of your time. Don’t beat yourself up about it, you’re not the only girl to fall for it. This type of guy cannot be fixed and is ultimately un-dateable. Make sure to steer clear of them in the future.